Tuesday, April 24, 2012

courageous love

Today is the day...
The day when the Wilbanks will finally meet their daughter,
and Bella will be joined with her new family, orphaned no more.
The wait is over. She's theirs forever.


I can't help but wonder what must be going through all of their heads, and the only word I can think of is COURAGE.

Courage for a comfortable, happy, American couple to invite uncertainty into their home.  To embrace an 8-year old girl who does not look like them, act like them, talk like them-- and before ever meeting her, to love her as their own daughter and to step into her little 8-year old life as her parents. Forever.

Courage for a junior high boy to share those same parents with a new sister. A sister who will likely get lots of attention and require a big adjustment and disrupt the only family you've known for 14 years... and to welcome that "disruption" with excitement, to love her as your own sister, and to be the best big brother you can. Forever.

Courage for an 8-year old girl to look at complete strangers-- from a far away country, with golden hair and white skin and a funny language you can't understand-- and call them "mama" and "papa." To give them those intimate titles that once belonged to the woman who birthed you and the man who taught you how to walk. And to trust these strangers enough to leave your country, your friends, everything you've known, and become part of their family. Forever.

I'd be terrified.

And yet... isn't this the beauty of adoption?
A love that RISKS... risks pain and rejection and disruption and disappointment.
A love that COMMITS... not based on anything they've done to earn or deserve it, and not conditional on anything they may do in the future to hurt or break it.
A love that just IS.

Who is capable of this love? By nature, we are too fearful, too selfish, too insecure to take such a risk.

BUT GOD demonstrated His love for us in this, while we were yet sinners, CHRIST DIED FOR US. (Romans 5:8)

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God. (1 John 3:1)

Not because of anything we've done, but simply because of His great love.
And that love changes everything.

1 comment:

  1. Beautifully written, Amanda! Carl was adopted at birth, and how thankful I have been over and over again for the parents that took them as their matter what. It is indeed a beautiful picture of our adoption as sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father. Carl has often used Ephesians 1, when sharing his very special story. He was raised an only child, but then 9 years ago found out he has two step sisters! One of them lives right in South Bend!! They are crazy about each other! Continuing to pray for you during this powerful journey....will you see Jeff while you're there? Or will you be home when he arrives? Love you, Lori